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MyInvestCosmic Environment
The system around the pattern...
No one develops or maintains a dependency in an empty space.
Around every visible pattern there is an environment made up of:
- intimate relationships,
- family and friends,
- workplaces and professional networks,
- social and digital spaces.
This environment is not a static backdrop. It reacts– sometimes subtly, sometimes dramatically.
Concentric circles
A useful way to look at it is as concentric circles:
1. Inner circle
Partners, children, parents, very close friends.
They often carry the highest emotional and practical load.
2. Middle circle
Extended family, friends, regular colleagues, neighbours, communities.
They see patterns, but with more distance and more options to step away.
3. Outer circle
Institutions, employers, systems of care, legal frameworks.
They interact through rules, contracts, and procedures.
As dependency patterns progress, each circle tends to:
- adapt in its own way,
- develop coping strategies,
- and, at some point, reach its own limit.
How the environment adapts – and breaks
Typical dynamics include:
- Denial and minimisation
“It’s not that bad”, “everyone drinks”, “she just has a stressful phase.”
- Compensation
Others work more, hide traces, cover for missed responsibilities.
- Role solidification
People slip into roles: rescuer, controller, scapegoat, invisible one.
- Withdrawal
Outer circles start to distance themselves – to protect their own stability.
From the outside, the system can still look “functioning” for a long time.
Internally, it may already be deeply unstable.
At a certain point, small additional stresses can trigger a sudden collapse:
- a relationship breaks,
- a job is lost,
- a health crisis or legal event occurs.
What looked “stable, if difficult” reveals itself as structurally unsustainable.
Why this matters for intervention
If we only look at the person with the visible consumption or behaviour, we miss:
- how the environment may be unintentionally stabilising the pattern,
- how much pressure the inner circle is already under,
- and where there is genuine openness or resistance to change.
Effective work therefore requires:
- mapping the environment honestly,
- understanding who can realistically be involved,
- and respecting the limits and needs of all parties.
This page is not about blaming the environment.
It is about making its role visible, so that interventions can be designed that work with the real system – not against an imagined one.